This blog was originally posted on MindBodyGreen: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4609/Release-the-Old-Welcome-the-New.html
Spring has officially arrived in the Northeast. In this part of the country spring is the season of new color and new growth, but I think spring is welcomed everywhere as a time of renewal. It seems Mother Nature knows that what is old needs to be released in order to make room for what is new. All living things have a natural instinct for this same releasing/renewing process. Our bodies automatically know to exhale in order to make room for new oxygen.
Like the promise of a new season, there is endless potential available to you. As you read this article, there is a movie being made that is going to rock your world. Something is being invented that will make your life easier. There is someone, you may not know yet, who will bring great joy into your life. here are opportunities waiting for you that you can’t see yet because they are around the corner, or in your next week, or in your next encounter. Unfortunately, if you are functioning within old thought patterns and behaviors you won’t have the space available to accept those new possibilities.
My cousin is a loving father to his 16-year-old son, but his job demands that he spend weeks at a time out of state and he misses many evenings and weekends with his family. Over the Easter holiday father and son spent an entire afternoon on the golf course together. Afterward, his son told my cousin that he wished they could spend time together more often. My cousin, whose habitual thinking includes a great deal of self-recrimination, heard his son’s comment as a criticism that he isn’t available enough.
By the time he came home for the holiday dinner my cousin felt angry with his son for what he perceived to be a lack of gratitude. He was disappointed in himself and felt he’d been a bad father. On top of these reactions he piled some old, well-worn guilt and frustration that he was unable to live up to the expectations of the people he loves. The family dinner was tense. Afterward, the teen quickly retreated to his room feeling the weight of his father’s upset, but having no idea what he had done. My cousin, unable to let go of his insecurities and limited perceptions, lost the opportunity and potential that had presented themselves in that golf outing.
We humans may not be able to recall where we left our keys, but when it comes to holding grudges, old behaviors, and thought patterns our minds are very efficient. Our minds wrap around habitual thoughts like a clenched fist. However, if you want to shake the hand of that fabulous someone new (or a fabulous someone old), you have to open your fist and let go of what you’re gripping.