“Happiness is on the rise. Not only has the average amount of happiness risen over the last 30 years but, due to rising longevity, the number of happy life years has increased spectacularly.” ~World Database of Happiness
I’m not a trendy type, but this seems a trend worth jumping on. I’ve been happy and I’ve been unhappy. Happy is better and it’s often a few quick choices away from the alternative.
1. Choose your facts.
“I’m freezing, the weather is awful today,” he said.
“It’s not raining or snowing it’s nice out today,” I replied.
“It’s so windy, I hate this weather,” he confirmed.
“The sun feels wonderful,” I said as I walked away.
This was a conversation I had this morning. We were both standing on the same corner, at the same time, experiencing the same weather. Neither of us was delusional, or lying to the other. There are always hundreds of facts in front of you. You get to choose which ones you focus on.
2. Re-evaluate you’re network.
Remember the excitement of a play date? As children we intuitively understand that we’re happier when we interact with other people every day. For most of us, even with the advent of digital social networking, this remains true throughout life. However, your happiness quotient can also be significantly impacted by who you choose to interact with. When I was in high school and learning to navigate a diverse group of friends, my grandmother warned me, “You are only as good as the people you hang with.” My grandmother’s motivation was to keep me out of trouble, but the same theory of networking applies to how you feel about life. Every grouch that latches onto you will drain your happiness, and every joyful person you hang with will boost it.
3. Purge some angst.
To unearth your bliss, remove some of the guilt and anxiety that’s piled on top of it. At the time you chose to dive into the chocolate chip cookies, treat yourself to a second Marguerita, or buy that Mercedes it seemed like you were taking a shortcut to happiness. Regrettably, the next day when these choices result in more things to worry about, your joy is being pushed farther out of reach. When we worry about things like our finances, our job, or our health, we are not equipped to simultaneously tap into our happiness. Going on a budget, a diet, or making a career change may seem like undesirable transitions, but that’s not always the way it works. Paying off the credit cards, and making healthy lifestyle choices, makes you happier by eliminating some of the problems that keep you weighed down.
4. Go natural.
I was talking with a man who came to the US from his native country Columbia. He told me the people in Columbia are the happiest of any people in the world. When I asked why, he gave me two very logical reasons. First, he told me the weather is like spring every day so the people are always outside. Second, home grown, natural fruits and vegetables are easily accessible and make up the majority of the Columbian diet. This is a transferable recipe for creating joy anywhere in the world. In any weather, a walk outside is an instant mood booster, and there’s good reason that a big juicy bite of a delicious orange makes you smile. A regular dose of sunshine, fresh oxygen, and fresh food yields a deep sense of well-being that’s generated from being connected to the earth and the universe around you.
Your outside circumstances will never align perfectly to create bliss. Therefore, creating your happiness needs to start with a choice.
Kim Shand is a nationally-renowned yoga expert, on-air personality, and founder of Rethink Yoga. She travels nationally on a mission to inspire people to take control of their health, how they think, and how they age, through yoga. She motivates her students to find their power, their joy and to be “All In. All the Time.” Follow Kim on Facebook, on Twitter, and on YouTube.